Should I avoid my ex and his new SO at an event with our mutual friends?

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answer:Stay with your sister. Even though you two are not together, you still have two and a half years together and that is not going anywhere. You may not believe this, but at the convention you will be constantly looking for him and his new girlfriend. I believe he brought her along just to spite you. This trip may have some personal feelings for you.

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