If someone asks a question, and you answer that question honestly, even though the answer might upset the OP, should you refrain from answering honestly?

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answer:I agree, sometimes calling a spade a spade is the only way to go. If the Jerk fits, and all that. “Jerk” is pretty mild when it comes to name calling. I think it has to do with A. Who the mod of the moment is and B. phrasing something minus the actual use or a forbidden word. My post in the same question you’re referring to was pretty sharp and no nonsense too, but I guess referring to someone as a being a persecuted and self oppressed Eeyore, spreader of doom and gloom and all things negative, paranoid, cynical and a walking grievance just looking for a cause is okay as long as the word ” you” is not used as an intro. haha

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