Is there anything you wish your parents did differently raising you?

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answer:As flawed as my father was and as toxic as my mother became, really nothing. They were who they were and I can’t really fault them for that. If I had to say one thing, I wish they took a more active interest in my education. I was naturally an A-B student without putting in any real effort. My parents always thought that was good enough and therefore were hands-off mostly. I sometimes think I could have gone from a good student to an exceptional student if I had been pushed a bit. Challenged more. But really, it’s a minor quibble. It’s funny that this bothers me a bit, but the lying, emotional manipulation, anger issues, drugs, and all around drama I’ve made peace with. Weird.

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