Are you (or were your parents) (or would you be) a free range parent or a helicopter parent, or somewhere in between?

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answer:I have been a “0” as a parent. I never objected to my kids going where they wanted, as long as I knew where they were. It was a dynamic tension between trusting them and letting them explore, while also being aware of safety. I was treated pretty much the same way growing up in the sixties. When I was in second grade, I had to take the city bus across San Francisco to get to school. By the time I was in junior high, I was taking the train into the city for orthodontist appointments,and free to roam San Francisco at will until I met up with my dad for a ride home. When my daughter was in fifth grade, I arranged for her to take the school bus from her elementary school across town to the middle school down the street. she would then walk home from the middle school at the same time as older kids. A couple of moms were aghast that I let her walk home alone; they would never allow their sons to be in the same circumstance. I thought they were overly fastidious.

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