Friends wife just packed up the kids and left him, moving a thousand miles away from him. Any advice for how he can keep from going absolutely crazy?

Friends wife just packed up the kids and left him, moving a thousand miles away from him. Any advice for how he can keep from going absolutely crazy?
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answer:I’m glad to see your honesty about the situation. Well..about all you can do is assure him that this too shall pass and be a good listener, a shoulder. He has to navigate the brackish undertow of his denial and healing on his own. No way out but through. A good reminder to listen, REALLY listen when a SO tells you their feelings…I think you hit the nail on the head in disclosing he never thought she would do it, neither did my ex. lol In a way that is abuse…minimizing the seriousness of anothers feelings, surely he can’t be all that surprised…shocked yes, surprised no.
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