answer:Letting my odious in-laws bully me into having a wedding. After a lifetime of their megalomania, my husband was easily cowed by his parents and didn’t stand beside me and help fight them. We’re still living with the repercussions. I spent my entire life savings, and went into debt (I hate debt), to pay for that stupid event. My husband was so depressed by all the fighting and ugliness, he stopped showing up for work, got fired, and stayed unemployed for years. I never forgave my in-laws and remain resentful and cold to them. If I could build a time machine and go back, things would be very different. I would have put my foot down, drawn some firm boundaries, and demanded respect.