Can one learn to behave confidently even when feeling insecure?

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Wow! You hit the nail on the head. My lack of confidence and low self-esteem have led me more than once to make a complete and utter fool of myself. Even when I shoudn’t feel that way, if I am put on the spot, I could even reach the point of not being able to write my name! I think the first of your two options would be easier to achieve than the second. I appreciate your sense of urgency in this question, as a lack of confidence can easily affect your livelihood!

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