How can I stop dreaming about my abusive ex?

How can I stop dreaming about my abusive ex?
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answer:When things are doing really well in your life, I don’t think it is uncommon to fear the worst could happen. In your case, because your past relationship was so bad, a return to it would be the worst thing that could happen and is your worst fear. It will take you time to put that behind you – even though it has been “months and months”, you have to heal at your own pace. I think that the longer you are in your new relationship and it continues to go well, the more likely these fears that manifest themselves in your subconscious when you dream will taper off and go away. When unhappiness and fear have been the norm for you for a period of time, you almost have to learn how to be happy again. You will get there. Try to relax, concentrate on the good things in your life and confide in your new man. Allow him to be there for you and lean on him – you will do that for the rest of your life, so don’t be afraid to now. I think the fact that your wedding is coming up is probably also heightening your fear that “something will go wrong” before that date happens. Recognize that and try to relax. Weddings are a stressful time for anyone and you probably unconsciously feel that once you are actually married you will be “safe” so as the date gets nearer, your fear of trouble or something bad happening to stop you from reaching that safe place increases. I hope that you will be very happy and wish you the best.
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