Well, you are greiving all the possibilities you imagined for the future with the baby. You did lose your pregnancy no matter what you believe about the fetus already being a life or not. :(. It’s sad. Were you trying to get pregnant, or was this an accident? Miscarriages happen all the time. About 20% of known pregnancies, it’s a higher percentage if you include all pregnancies. Some people might treat it as not a big deal because they see it happen to many women, but of course it is a big deal to you.