answer:It depends on the situation. When I worked at a farm and fifteen guys (farm hands, yard guys, truck drivers) would sit around on break and talk about fags, dykes, or tease the guy from Jamaica to his face – I quickly started eating alone in my office. Even the owners spoke this way. It was clearly part of the culture. I wasn’t in a position to change anybody’s behavior. In one-on-one situations, I usually mention it immediately to someone. Sometimes with humor (elderly relatives), other times more directly.