answer:The site is intended for “personal causes and life events”, it doesn’t say Charity Events, or anything to discourage people using it for personal gain. So I wouldn’t say you were heartless, but perhaps think of your ‘friend’ with a little more compassion. I wouldn’t ask for any help from anyone unless I REALLY needed it, maybe he’s at that point where embarassment is better than starving or being homeless. And of course he should manage his finances better if he’s in that position, but life happens.