answer:I remember when I was in my mid teens I was with my high school boyfriend andnI don’t remember the situation, but I was worried about something to do with a stranger, and my boyfriend said kind of harshly, “why are you worried about him, he is nobody.” The sentence stunned me. The word nobody stunned me. He continued, “we don’t know him, worry about us.” His family was extremely united, like how you think of the Mafia example in your video I guess, but they weren’t killing people. I was raised by a mother who worried about the people waiting at a restaurant for us to finish our dinner so they could sit down and eat. She would tell my father to skip the coffee at the end of the meal. Used to drive my dad crazy. LOL. I’m not so sure I would change the meaning of the word family, I think the breakdown and difficulty in families today cause a lot of problems, and I would rather focus on that getting better. Plus, family has multiple definitions already. We have our nuclear family and our extended family, and our friend who are like family and we are part of the family of being human. Many Q’s on fluther have many jellies saying they don’t understand why people think blood is thicker than water, but in troubled times it is most likely our family that will come through for us. Will sacrifice for us. At least that is how I look at it, so we should value that committment I think. At the same time, for me, there is something miraculous about feeling cnnected to everyone. Knowing how similar we are, rather than looking at how dissimilar and caring about all people in that golden rule sense.