answer:”...deserve some sort of special respect when they signed on for exactly that responsibility when they chose to have a child?” I think this is worded kind of oddly. I don’t know anyone that acts like they “deserve some sort of special respect”, but most of the people I know have all sorts of things to say about major life choices. It’s not unusual to hear someone say that they don’t like when their spouse does this annoying thing or that they work hard to maintain a certain lifestyle for their (maybe child-free) family, it doesn’t seem to me like they are expecting some “special respect”? It’s just life. Whether things are a choice (as most American marriages also are these days) or not, we tend to talk about them, positive or negative. If they are of the bent to make a high drama event out of the things they’ve chosen to do, they are probably going to do it about all other things as well. Is that sort-of what you meant? If not, I’m sorry.