Have you ever felt like you messed up your relationship with someone that you thought was your soulmate?

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answer:Last year I befriended with a group of friends. All of them liked me and would share everything about their life to me. One of them even told me I was “lovely and easy-going”. I thought I had found my soulmate until one day, a series of misfortune came to us. Although they were just accidents, they kept on blaming me for them and began to gave me a cold shoulder. I tried to save the relationship but it was hopeless. Other than time, there was another cure for me: I found two other friends (who knew nothing about my breakup). I met them the same time when my relationship went sour. At first I only made friendly conversation with them, but gradually I found that they were more geniune than the last friends. They are currently my friends, but having been betrayed before I find myself more wary this time.

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