There could have been sexual abuse and you blanked it out, but what you describe sounds more like gender abuse. He seems to have hated you for being female, and as you grew closer to being a woman, resented that. He sounds like a terrible mess. Personally, I wouldn’t hang onto labeling him so much. He was deplorable (sorry minions) hateful, brutal. He is the one who needs/needed to sort out the what and why. You just need to find your own strength to live above and beyond that. You may choose therapy to assist you with that, but the unraveling is what he should have done, in order to be an acceptable father. I am sorry you had to survive living with such a mess of a man, but survive you did. A toast, to your inner strength!