By bladder pain, what do you mean? Maybe the speculum sort of bruised you, was it a metal or plastic one? I prefer the plastic ones, but it seems rare to encounter them. Also, they have different sized speculums, did she use the smaller one for you? I always ask for it because internal exams are quite painful for me… I figured it was because of my tilted uterus or me just being sensitive. and yes, get a male gyno, I much prefer male doctors.