It is absolutely fine and normal to have the life plan you have. Your not working is not affecting your family’s quality of life. Many people are in your situation. One of my male friends is the spouse who stays with the kids, and that’s working out fine. You should go ahead and live your life the way that is satisfying to you and try not to let other people annoy you with their criticisms. Dear Abby used to suggest answering personal questions that are none of the questioner’s business, like “Are you looking for a job?” by saying “Why would you feel the need to ask me that?” If you feel you need to explain, you can say “My husband and I are quite happy with the lifestyles we have chosen for ourselves.” I’m not being as articulate as I want to be, but you get the idea. And, by the way, I’m a man and I support your plan. My wife used to work, but doesn’t now. My best friend’s wife doesn’t work. And it’s all working out great. Good luck and try not to worry.