Question

I believe I give off a vibe that attracts ridiculous, selfish, and crazy men. How do I change that vibe and meet nice men?

Answer 1

Have you considered therapy? I know that will sound like a prat answer. For me personally, I suffered an abusive childhood where I became so accustomed to insanity that my warning alarms no longer go off. I no longer think anything is “weird” because I grew up with crazy. It doesn’t immediately register when someone is crossing the line. Also since I was never allowed any healthy boundaries, I never developed any. I am learning how to create healthy boundaries. I am learning important social skills in group therapy that help me learn to say “no” and to be assertive about keeping healthy boundaries. It is very helpful. To be blunt they do it because you let them, while other people tell them to go to hades.