answer:No. That is perhaps one of the most terrible things that I’ve heard. Whether or not they took you telling them that you’d left some stuff behind as an “invitation” to go get it is up for debate, but the only reason they should have gone is to grab things that they thought you would have wanted to keep for you. I would ask them if that’s what they did, and if it was to keep themselves, you should tell them that such an action seems very much like them taking advantage of you in one of your most desperate times. I’m all for forgiveness…but this seems like one of those times it would be very, very difficult for my family to make it up to me. Think of it this way – if it were strangers who knew the situation, it would be despicable. The fact that it was your family is almost unthinkable.