answer:I have 3 young kids and I feel your pain. My wife and I are fortunate to have agreed many years ago that we will not get involved unless there is blood or something outrageous is about to happen. They are forced to work out stuff on their own. There is some fighting, but it’s interesting to listen to the cycle and have them work it out. Of course, everyone is different, but I feel that this approach has worked with our kids. I have seen parents get involved, which inevitably involves a combination of picking sides (consciously or not) and the concept that the solution to their interpersonal issues sits with an outside party. My kids know that no amount of whining to us will get us in on the dispute. So the motivation to work something out between each other usually pulls them around to some kind of compromise. Usually. Again, results may vary. Oh, and this might not address your real question: how do you survive the noise of such absurd bickering, etc? Well, that will be a tougher challenge. I find that reminding myself that they are children, and that this is normal, goes a long way. I can’t expect them to be calm, reasonable adults. Heck, I can hardly expect the adults in my life to act like calm, reasonable adults.