Raising our kids. Should government be involved, neighbors, schools?

Raising our kids. Should government be involved, neighbors, schools?
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It’s a case by case call. Everyone is so different, I think a parent has to evaluate their skills and their kids needs and make the call what they need. There is no good one size fits all rule.
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