answer:No, and nor should you. That said, you need to find appropriate ways to deal with the painful ones. That is traditionally done in a support group or with a therapist whom you trust. These are safe havens where you can rage, vent, throw things, weep, shriek, laugh and let it all hang out. And there you can learn tricks to put some feelings that you might not want to display in public on hold, or in storage or in overnight-parking for the interval. I am a female, I am a breast cancer survivor and I have spent very useful time with both a cancer support group and a therapist. Best money I ever spent.