In the time that you have been here, have you learned better coping skills or better ways to live more comfortably in your world?

In the time that you have been here, have you learned better coping skills or better ways to live more comfortably in your world?
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answer:I completely transformed my life 10 years ago, way before I discovered Fluther and yes, the changes have been sustainable. I have always been comfortable in my own skin and have also always marched to the beat of my own drum. As far as coping skills, I make sure I get plenty of rest, live in a very pastoral environment, get massages, meditate, star gaze and have returned to the garden of herbal transcendence on occasion the last few years after years and years of abstinence being the good mommy and little miss responsible. lol I am almost 53 and yes, I have come a long way baby. I do not worry, about anything, I live one day at a time, have zero relationship dramas, swiftly eliminate toxic people from my realm and am blessed with an active imagination and an abundance of creative energy, I am never bored and couldn’t be happier, other than watching this economy eat up my cash like a vulture on roadkill. haha
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