Is it normal to resent young(er) people?

Is it normal to resent young(er) people?
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answer:I’m 45 and I don’t feel resentment towards young people, what I feel is sadness that I did not seize the moment when I could. I know I am not very old, but I do have some big regrets that I did not pursue some of the things I wanted when I was younger and it has been plaguing me lately. I have been calling the last few months my midlife crisis. As far as the wrinkles, hair, figure, aches, pains…well, I also have regrets about going in the sun so much when I was very young. I don’t resent the young beautiful people, if anything I am annoyed I don’t look as good as some of the 45 and 50 year olds around me. In my 20’s I had very bad chronic pain, and for now even with my newer health problems I actually feel better daily than in my mid to late twenties and early thirties, so I appreciate that. I guess in summary, I don’t usually envy, resent, or get jealous of others. Usually I feel more like I am competing with myself. I use competing for lack of a better word. Am I to the standard I want to be in the moment I am in? I try to appease myself by saying I did the best I could do at the time when I think about the past, but lately that line is not working for me.
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