answer:The questions will probably flow pretty easily once you sit down to talk with him. It’s difficult to know his position, so it may be tough to ask more than just a conversation starter. But I would make sure that I covered a couple of things: 1. While he may not feel it is racist, he does acknowledge that there are plenty of people who do find it racist, right? 2. If he answers #1 in the affirmative, would he be willing to acknowledge that a symbol that a large part of the population finds racist should not be displayed on public property? This is quite different from free speech issues. He may be free to raise 10 confederate flags on his own property. But the public property issue is completely different. 3. If he decides to fly a confederate flag on his property, and he understands that this symbol is racist to many, does he have any issue with this? In other words, is he ok associating himself with a symbol that and all that comes with it…even if he doesn’t see it that way? 4. If his desire is to maintain a symbol of “southern pride” (whatever that may mean to him), is it possible to create a new symbol – one that is inclusive? 5. If he were not white, does he feel that he might have a different perspective on the confederate flag? This one is a question that I might really hold him to and spend some time on. If his great grandparents were bought and sold as property, does he feel that he would be as supportive of the confederate flag? 6. If he is feeling “fired up” – explore that. I find that emotional hot spots are often those weak links in a conceptual model. They’re the places that need the most “glue” to keep it all together. The “glue” in many cases is emotion and feeling “fired up”. Anyway, I could go on forever. Please update us when you have the talk! Edit: Crap, I thought that linked conversation was the generic “southern pride” thread. I will have to go back and read your link. Sorry.