answer:I wouldn’t. I think doing so would just dredge up a lot of sad, angry and vulnerable feelings that I just don’t want to experience. I’m not who I was then. I don’t think I would gain anything from writing that asshat a letter. And I don’t think he would care. His behaviour was so callous and privileged at the time, why would I assume he would feel any different now? I suspect he would either ignore my letter or deny he committed the crime. So no, I don’t see any value for me. My rapist had a wife and children when he raped me. His behaviour afterwards suggested he was abusive and dismissive of his wife’s feelings too. If you feel you will gain something by even just writing the letter and not sending it, perhaps do so. We’re all different. What do you think you would gain from taking this action?