Yes, but I figured out why, and eliminated the nasty people from my gift-giving list. My mother and one of my sisters were always critical of gifts I gave them, and were sarcastic and mocking about choices I made. It took me a while to realize that everyone else was delighted and they were just jerks. I no longer have anything to do with either of them, which has improved my state of mind, especially at the holidays, dramatically. Have a lovely holiday season as a newlywed, @longgone, and let the secret gifts become a beloved tradition instead of an indicator of angst. <3