I suppose it was my father’s death, though it made me get serious about the girl who became my wife. Then there was going through the hell of going to court. I will not go into details here, but it was quite humbling. It also made me realize how much abuse I could take, which was necessary when I went to war with the worst boss in the world. Breaking up with my first serious girlfriend was horrible, but in the end I began protecting myself from people who were abusive. My Mom’s death was brutal too. I was executor of her estate, which I never wanted to be. I had to enforce what she wanted, and ignore what I wanted. I suppose every horrible thing had some positive points. Maybe that’s a lesson worth learning.