How do you forgive someone that hurt or disappointed you so much in the past?

How do you forgive someone that hurt or disappointed you so much in the past?
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answer:Forgiving them doesn’t mean that you have to open the door to a relationship again. You don’t have to let them back into your life just because you’ve let go of the pain. Forgiveness is good for YOU, because you don’t have to carry that around anymore. Not allowing a toxic person back into your life doesn’t mean that you can’t forgive them, it just means that you value yourself.
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