answer:I cannot relate to men or women who are passive. To me it just comes off as dishonest at best – or neurotic. I find it difficult to trust these people. What do they really want, think, or feel? It’s some scary shit. Assertive to me means being somewhat aware of your ideas, emotions, and needs, and a willingness to express those things regardless of the consequences. Assertive to me doesn’t mean being a jerk. It means being honest. Just my take.