When I consider getting involved, I consider WHY it is that I’m getting involved and whether it would actually help what’s going on. Generally, people deserve to know the truth but having that truth be told by someone outside the family (as was the case in the question) might not: 1) actually have the person believe it 2) bring about a better life. If I knew that a person engaged in an activity that harmed another and they told me, I’d go to the police. If I knew that a person engaged in an activity that harmed themselves, I’d take more time to consider the situation – the police, our legal system, etc aren’t always the best ‘friends’ to go to, whatsoever. If I knew that a good friend, for example, was being beaten repeatedly, I’d provide her with a safe house, resources and organizations that I know help but wouldn’t put her in any more danger by inserting myself into their household since I know things aren’t black and white and and sometimes truth begets even more violence. Every situation is touch and go, I trust my guts and my moral compass. I know when I feel there is flexibility and when there isn’t.