Do men secretly judge other men's looks?

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Let me put it this way – I have no way of determining if a guy is attractive or not. It’s not some block I have and I am not “lying”. I just see dudes and they look like, well…dudes. Some are in shape, some are skinny, some are fat, some have huge noses. I have heard this from people in the past, and I assure you that I am incapable of determining if a man is attractive or not.

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