Did you ever find out as an adult dramatic details of your parents lives prior to your birth?

Did you ever find out as an adult dramatic details of your parents lives prior to your birth?
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I found letters from my dad to my mom right after she died. They were written before they were married. Very enlightening. It put their whole lives with us in a much different perspective.
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