My childhood wasn’t nearly as traumatic as yours, but my parents really did nothing to help me succeed in life. After I had kids, it really became much clearer how little they did do. In fact, my father actively sabotaged my graduating from college by pulling the financing out from under me, with the excuse that I was a girl. All I needed was a man to take care of me. I didn’t need a degree. But, as the years go on I finally came to grips with it is what it is. If I were you, just hang on to what you’ve got, reach for more and focus on that. Try not to even think about the past.