answer:I ask about what they like to do for fun, then where do they go to do that, and how did they get into that, and where were they were living when the got into it. Or what they did last weekend, and if they were tired was it because of work, and what was work like, and how they got into it. I structured those sentences on purpose. Ask open ended questions tah allow you to ask something more, so that he person is talking. But it is not an interrogation, make comments on how you feel about what they say, and then follow up with a question. They’ll think you are a wonderful conversationalist.