answer:@SuperMouse I made the decision that it was no longer worth it to confront my parents when I was in my late teens. There were just some arguments that could not be won, and trying was wearing me out. The only way to stick to that was to avoid certain topics altogether, and this meant distancing myself from them. That meant that we couldn’t know each other as well as I might have hoped… but then, we clearly didn’t anyway, and not because of anything I was doing. So I’ve made peace with that. You suggest sending an email to your father asking if you had done something to upset him. Is there any answer that he could give that would justify his behaviour? And therefore, does it matter what his answer would be? If I were to write an email to discuss the events of that day, it would be to ask why he felt he had the authority to dismiss my (hypothetical) children in my own house – because that’s the question I’d really want the answer to. Or, it would be to simply tell him that he didn’t have that authority, and to ask or tell him not to do that again.