Firstly, a bucket list pertains specifically to death, referring to the old expression, “kick the bucket”. Secondly, After three years, trying to pin down a time line is not nagging. It would be considered weighing your options, and planning your future. I am all in favor of taking the time to plan, and get things set in place. If he feels mentioning or discussing the subject is pressure, then he has no plans, he’s just biding time until you catch on. A man who is sincere will not be opposed to talking things over with you. If you feel your relationship is a strong one, then do talk it over with him. Men don’t always get it about reaching thirty. They can start having babies whenever, waiting until fifty is no big deal for them. Talk with him, and help him understand the pressure you feel, and the time frame you must consider. There are women who have had babies at fifty, but it isn’t often a very safe thing, for mother or child. Help him to see that you have those things to consider. Some men need a big banner, post it notes, and a hammer to catch on to certain things which are not already in their sights. Also, some men feel nervous that they may not make good fathers. Often they don’t believe in themselves until the first child is a toddler. If you believe he will be a good father, reassure him. Point out those qualities you see in him that would make him a good father. Be reassuring. If you don’t get pushy, just discussing for the sake of knowing is not being pushy. Pushy is being demanding, saying he must make a decision. Pushy is ultimatums. Just let him know your thoughts, and take the conversation from there.