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answer:Are you a guy or a girl? Do you know this fellow well in person, or is he someone you met online? How old are you? Do you see this fellow in a romantic way? Does he see you in a romantic way? These answers matter, because the situation can play out quite differently depending on the answers. It sounds like your friend is not being courteous to you when you are Skype-ing. You need to speak up and say something to him. You don’t need to be rude or accusatory. Just say something like, “Hey Ron, maybe we can skype later when you are not distracted with other calls.” If he says, “No, tle200 it’s fine.” Then repeat to him, “I’d rather have your full attention. Let’s Skype another time when you’re free.” Don’t accuse him of being rude or inattentive, just keep repeating that you’d rather talk to him when he’s not distracted by other people and devices. Then get off Skype until he’s willing to do that. If he’s not willing to do that, then don’t get back on Skype with him, or he’ll take that as a sign that it’s OK to keep doing this to you. Hint for ask-public: make sure to use your grammar correctly or the ask-publician grammar police will come and school you. : )

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