answer:I was thinking about this last night. For most of my life, I was brave about some surprising things and fearful in other areas. Like yours, my husband was also fearless – or never showed it – and I became dependent on him for many things and probably more anxious and fearful. When he left, as I’ve said here in the past, I wasn’t sure how I would manage many of the practical aspects of life. Now, I just stayed alone in the house through a blizzard for 36 hours and dug myself out at the end of it. I travel, with occasional anxiety, but I travel alone, including renting apartments in Paris and San Francisco. The only things I still fear are losing my health and/or my financial security but I don’t focus on them. It is amazing to me to have come to this place at this time of my life. It is lovely to live without fear. My suggestion to you – if you want to work on it – is to do more things independently of him so that you can begin to see the capabilities you have.