Post-funeral: Not everyone's invited to the restaurant, so what do you say to them so there are no hurt feelings?

Post-funeral: Not everyone's invited to the restaurant, so what do you say to them so there are no hurt feelings?
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I would say that those extras who want to attend, please pay for their own meals. Company is always encouraged, but the restaurant is given a budget and it will be stuck to. If you weren’t specifically invited, but would like to join us, your meal will be on your own bill. Arrange accordingly.
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