answer:Too busy and I guess she has too many sticky hands around and may have given up. I think with some people it is in their nature and with others it has to be learned. And neat doesn’t mean clean. My son is very neat, but don’t expect him to dust or wipe down or clean the bathroom or clean out the sink once he washes dishes. Or to clean them very well. Both of my kids can wash clothes but God forbid they bother to fold. It just makes sense to some people. I’m like you. The little things are just as bothersome to me because in time they pile up and no matter how much you clean the house, collectively they make the home appear dirty. Which is worse than messy. I rather see a messy home with clean items than a dirty home with no mess. When I went house hunting I saw a home for sale that didn’t have much furniture or things about. It was pretty mess free. But the hair on the floor, the grease (or some unknown sticky stuff) on the stairway railing, the grime in the tub and mold growing in the shower, and water stains on the counters, and the 3 years of grease on the stove top and kitchen walls, was enough to turn me away immediately. I didn’t even bother to look in the stove. The glass sliding door was dull with grime on it. I was afraid to touch anything. You just knew it was going to stick and the house was just one match away from going up in flames in seconds. All the door knobs and doors and walls were dirty. I did find their mess in the master bedroom. When we opened the door to the walk in closet, you could see where they hastily threw everything in the closet floor. My realtor took a step back when she saw it. That’s bad when a realtor seems shocked as well. It wasn’t the only reason for me turning down the home. It looked structurally unsound. But I wouldn’t have taken it even it it wasn’t because I know I would’ve had to paid someone a lot of money to get all those years of grease and dirt off the wall before I could even paint it and goodness knows how much mold was growing behind in the walls. It would’ve been risky to buy a moldy home. Oh, I forgot. Mold around the windows as well. Nope. Couldn’t do it. My point is people don’t realize it the little things that slowly creep up and become big things.