Would you allow your 4 year old child to go on a playdate to a school friend's house alone for the first time if you do not know the other parents?

Would you allow your 4 year old child to go on a playdate to a school friend's house alone for the first time if you do not know the other parents?
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I think you should only do what you are comfortable with. I think I would want to meet the parents if my child was that young, but I would likely not feel I had to stay for the whole date. Although, I don’t think it is completely unreasonable to be there the first time. Just 4 years old is very young and you don’t know her or her home. I wouldn’t worry about her being offended, she shouldn’t be if she is. Maybe invite the boy to your house and the mom.
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