answer:I’ll answer this two ways: Assuming you are in the U.S., you have absolutely no legal rights to determine whether or not she has an abortion or not. Putting the law aside, let’s talk about morals and ethics. There are two possibilities, your girlfriend currently has a human baby, or she has a non-human lump of tissue. Assuming this “thing” is not a human baby, then you are trying to persuade her to have elective surgery which you perceive as necessary and she does not. Since it is her body that will go through this, ethically, while you certainly can discuss various factors you feel she should take into account in making this decision, but the decision is hers to make, and I hope you are not trying to coerce her to do something she doesn’t want to do. If this “thing” is a human baby, you are trying to talk her into murdering her, and your, child. I don’t think I need to discuss that any more. If this is true, what you are trying to do is a moral abomination, and I don’t use that word lightly. Regardless of that issue, what you need to understand is that most societies don’t give women the same “benefit of the doubt” regarding children that they give to men. Let us assume this child is born. If you walk away from your responsibilities to that child, while some people might view you as a deadbeat dad, most people aren’t going to treat you any differently, because they don’t like conflict or don’t want to “judge” you. This would not be me. Walking away from these responsibilities is just plain evil in my view. On the other hand, society has a much lower acceptance of mothers who walk away from their responsibilities to their children. Many more people will modify their opinions of your girlfriend if she does so. I should clarify, I am not referring to putting the child up for adoption. That is accepting responsiblity, and recognizing the child might better be raised by others. But if a mother just abandons children, there is a much greater stigma than for fathers. Further, an abortion is not something that is going to happen to your mind and body. There is absolutely no way YOU will have the same physical, psychological, emotional, social and financial risks in this decision as her. Do you really think your relationship will not be affected if she has an abortion she doesn’t want in order to please you? I think you already know the answer to your question.