Do you let your kids be themselves?

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It’s the hardest thing about being a parent. But, the best thing you can do as a parent is to give them permission to fail and to learn from that failure, and teach them how to rebound from that failure. You learn absolutely nothing from the things you do correctly, if you don’t do it on your own. You learn more from things you correct. I usually try to tell them when they do something well, that I’m proud of their decision process or the effort. When they’re doing something that I think I will have an unforeseen outcome, I usually verbalize that outcome, and talk about it. I give advice, but don’t expect them to take it. Both daughters have different talents that I wish I had; I would do more with those talents, manage relationships differently than they do. Their lives will turn out differently than mine. In many ways, thank goodness.

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