When you are going through a major life change would you rather people ask about it or pretend it isn't happening?

When you are going through a major life change would you rather people ask about it or pretend it isn't happening?
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My family is different in that they called me to find out what was going on when I went through a divorce. Each of my brothers called, asked and listened. None of them judged me, or even gave me advice. They let me know they were there for me and asked if I needed money. In that case, I was glad they asked and let me know they were behind me. If I felt they were just trying to get the scoop or tried to convince me to change my mind, then I wouldn’t want them to talk to me about it.
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