Depends on what time period you are asking about….they were permissive, at times. Other times, very strict. After my sister really started having a lot of problems, things became a lot more strict in my household. Here I was, straight A’s – excellent behavior and punished, because she was out of control. We aren’t permissive, basically – earn our trust. Violate that….it’s an uphill battle; however, our children are really figuring out that we mean what we say. Tell us the truth and we’ll work with you – there might still be some anger, but honest, well – it’s buys a lot of goodwill!