answer:My husband used to abuse me, but never physically. He sure did a good job of intimidation and destroying people (especially me) with his words. That went on until I finally figured out that I-not he was to blame for allowing him to treat me this way. When I realized that, I told him it was divorce or counseling, and he’d better hurry or he wouldn’t have a chance. He chose counseling. It got worse for a while, and then one day, after he’d been away on a vacation with my daughter, he came in weeping. He said that God had spoken to him, and that he never realized what he had been doing to me, and asked me to forgive him. I told him I would, but there would be NO room for backsliding. One screw-up and I’d be gone from his life. It’s been about 7 years now, and he’s been an angel in every respect. I know this is not the usual way it turns out, but I am very thankful it did. We will have been married 35 years this June.