What kinds of things do you beat yourself up for?

What kinds of things do you beat yourself up for?
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answer:I am the complete opposite. I rarely self criticize. I accept that we ( I ) all of us, are works in progress and as long as I am not mistreating others, the rest is all small stuff. My worst “flaw,” given my particular personality, is that I tend to procrastinate at times based on the fact that I rely on my innovative nature to tackle a problem at the last minute. I also, on occasion, can put my foot in my mouth being a verbose and comedic type. I don’t always take into account that others may not get my sense of humor. I think I freaked out the plumber that came to my house last night to snake out my clogged plumbing. Really nice and attractive black man and being the humorous and touchy feeley type, I gave him a slap on the shoulder and joked about ” does a blonde shit in the woods” I LIVE in the woods and then, cracked jokes about finding out my secret, of dissolving my ex husband in an acid bath and hence, my clogged plumbing. lol My neighbor was down helping and he loves my sense of humor, so he was the buffer and after a bit the guy loosened up and was laughing along with us. I am a very open and demonstrative type and sometimes, after the fact, I realize that I can overwhelm more demure types of personalities. The world is not always open to a female George Carlin type. lol
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