If someone asks for bad advice, are we just supposed to give it?

If someone asks for bad advice, are we just supposed to give it?
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answer:I’m not sure there are ‘supposed to’s’. I think we are just a community trying to answer as best we can on a topic we might know a little about. Or a lot. I do feel though a lot of questions are not answered, and I do it myself from time to time, since the question was not read thoroughly. Or misread. Suicide is another matter altogether, I personally would refrain from answering such a question.
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