answer:Yes, there are some people that feel the need for conflict to validate themselves. it is terribly unhealthy, and reflects their inability to achieve validation by themselves. And the worst part is it needs your participation, and that is already bothering you. So be healthy for yourself and set boundaries. Tell her that she does not respect you or your relationship, and (this is the hard part) that if she continues, your relationship is over. You need to be strong for yourself and not put up with this. If you let it continue, your relationship will fail anyway because of your eventually getting resentful over the continued drama cycle.